conversations

How we think is an outcome of our conversations was not something i understood till I read an article about relationships and its impact on us as human beings. This article was not so much about the conversations, it basically was about being in a relationship which meant most no of conversations with that person and those conversations driving the shaping of the brain.

And it started dawning on me, every conversation is like a pair of hands of a potter, a curve here and there alters the very shape of the outcome. Just think about it, you are in a conversation with your colleague, you are passionately articulating about something and this colleague is cutting it all the time indicating the flaws in the thinking. What will that do to you, make you feel so drained, and what does draining do, releases toxins in the body and in the process killing some cells. I am exaggerating a bit but thats what happens as we do talking/listening/arguing for atleast 4-5 hours every day or more. Imagine, every interaction can potentially add or take away a part of us and we indulge in them as if we think thats the only way to make our presence felt in this world.

The method of vipashyana is talked a lot about for cleansing of our minds, why does vipashyana help us in cleansing? My thinking is, Vipashyana is about making our mind still and not letting it get affected by our thoughts. Infact, an instructor of mine used to advocate that during vipashyana, you should be able to screen your thoughts and not indulge in any of those, in a way, be aware of those but do not get affected. I feel conversations are exactly opposite of vipashyana. As we should do vipashyana occasionally, we should indulge in conversations occasionally and only those which will add to us. Its not about doing only those that suit our thinking, post every conversation we should feel energised and those are achieved irrespective of the tilt towards a particular way of thinking. Ofcourse, the ownership of making them energising is not only on others.