Deassetisation

I returned from Bangkok without buying a gadget!!! I was very happy with myself that i stayed with the resolution. Before leaving for Bangkok, I had browsed my cupboard to find how many things that i bought on various trips have been unused/partially used. And there were many - a camcorder bought 5 years back used for 10 minutes of video recording, a GPS system bought in Shanghai is unused as it does not support India maps (but i can see Shanghai roads neatly), there are 4 handsets that were bought during various stages of Nokia's evolution lying idle, 3 cameras bought at the time of announcement of every trip to make it memorable used only during that trip etc etc.

To top it, I ensured that we clicked very limited no of photos during the trip as most of the photos have a shelf life of a month - I am a big fan of the "living in the moment" thinking.

Fundamentally, I am moving towards a deassetised lifestyle. I read a tweet a few days back, "Its no more about how many assets you own, its about how smart you are to not own too many of them". And, I completely get it. During the Bangkok trip, I kept thinking, if there was a shop that leased a canon DSLR for a few baths per day, it would meet my need of checking the ability to photograph and also not carrying a camera. Similarly, if I have a choice of renting various cars as the need arises, there wont be a need for me to buy one ( btw i own a car that is 10 years old and i have no immediate plans to change). I am extending this philosophy even for a home, I do not own a flat and have no plans to buy one for a while, there are enough furnished flats available, as your location preferences change, you move to a new house.

If, this thinking develops an appeal for a large section of people, it will make this world a very different place. We wont run after creating assets and in the process will develop a very positive attitude to sharing. This will make the world far more asset efficient and create a democratic availability of services. By no means I support the idea of giving up, what i support is the idea of consume as you require.

Birthday celebrations

" This should be the most memorable day and a birthday for her " persuaded a friend to all others while we were working on the mega party for another friend, transcending from being young to so called middle aged - how can one in a night is not the question expected in such a situation. We did actually put up a reasonable show, not sure if it turned out to be the most memorable birthday for her.

Coming to birthdays, I can never get over the foresightedness of my parents - I don't mean my birth, but about my birthday. Can you believe, I do not know my real birthday. Whenever I ask my mother, she is unable to place it in the flow of time, forget the day, I asked the year and she drew a blank, may be if i widen the timeframe to a decade, she will be able to place it. To make things easy for her, once, I opened the hindu calendar and cued, was it a ramanavami or was it close to Padva, didn't work even then. I turned to my father once and pleaded, I am sure you atleast can recollect, how did you admit me in a school. He started laughing and said thats another story, actually, those days ( it sounds like i am such an antique piece), no one asked for a certificate, so I told a date that will work for the admission, not necessarily the birthdate. Not sure he wanted to keep the information confidential, he just did not remember it. When i pressed it too hard, he started saying, i think, it was a year or two earlier to Pakistan war. I just gave up. One possible way to have a count of the years could have been the no of birthdays i have celebrated, that was not to be as we never celebrated our birthdays, not that there was any negativity around it, just that we did not know such a thing called birthday celebrations.

So why is it being foresighted. I think my parents believed that one may chose to not count the years you are alive. In the overall scheme of the universe, we come and spend so little time living, its not worth its while to count it. And if the birthdays are meant for making some one special for a day, that day can be a day of your choosing.

The story of my school admission - some other day.

Personal commitment

During the month of December, I had an opportunity to attend two training sessions, one was about entrepreneurship conducted by Ram Charan and Sadhguru and the second was about Transactional Analysis (TA 1O1) conducted by Saru, an authority on TA.

One common theme of both the programs was about the personal responsibility we have in making things work for ourselves. During one of the discussions, Sadhguru brought out very emphatically the role of "me" as in I, in making things happen. Similarly, basic premise of TA is, if I need to bring change in any situation, I need to change myself to bring that change. A friend of mine says it very well, I take the responsibility for how I feel about every transaction.

I feel this is a very powerful concept and makes me feel being in charge in all the situations as its no more about the others but its about me. If I change myself, I will be able to achieve anything that i desire to. Most of what we do, starts in our brain, most of the times its subconscious, point is making it conscious and equipping ourselves to achieve.

How does this translate to business parlance - I was reading an interview of Larry Page, cofounder of google, he was asked a question about how he views the competition, his response quoted verbatim - "Obviously we think about competition to some extent. But I feel my job is mostly getting people not to think about our competition. In general I think there's a tendency for people to think about the things that exist. Our job is to think of the thing you haven't thought of yet that you really need. And by definition, if our competitors knew that thing, they wouldn't tell it to us or anybody else. I think just our strengths, our weaknesses, our opportunities are different than any other company". Very clearly, focussing within and driving excellence is a much better strategy than keep worrying about the competition.

In the same context, sadhguru spoke about the investment we need to do in ourselves to make us equipped. One form of that was keeping our body agile and receptive to stimuli so that we can be perceptive. He emphasized a lot on maintenance of our spine through yoga. He compared the spine to an information highway - receive the stimuli and make it travel to the brain for a suitable response. For a speedy response, the spine needs to be unclogged.

I have made a promise to the self, I want to be conscious of how I am thinking all the time. 

God of small things

"GOST", here goes the name.

Me and my friend, while discussing various earth shattering things ended up talking about an old colleague of us and concurred that there cant be any better title for him. Getting into details and staying there is what he is so good at, and most of the times these details invariably are about peripherals.

So, why are some people so obsessed with small things in life? my friends explanation always is about the childhood, he must have had a troubled childhood, nobody to teach what an expanded universe looks like, how constrained living can make you scrounge for details etc etc... i agreed yet did not believe that its the only reason. I think it comes largely from this urge of controlling others.

i have this theory that there are two types of managers, creators of insecurity to rule and creators of security to rule. I think this colleague of us falls in the former category. He strongly believes that people will deliver only if they are pushed to and are made to.And to keep doing that, one needs to continuously keep searching a pivot of detail to beat them with. and then use the oft quoted remark "god is in the detail". Does it sound too harsh, may be but that's what GOSTs can do to you if you are not from that herd.

For any one, to create security and manage, is a tough ask, it means giving space, deal with uncertainties of outcome, getting questioned on own assumptions and that's tough. I don't think one is necessarily better than the other at all times but if I were to work in an environment, I will prefer to work with a secure one. Such an environment breeds long term creativity and competency.

Are there "GOST"s around you, I can fully empathize.

Of arguments and agreements

Of arguments and agreements

"Just go there and keep you voice at the highest decibels", warned my room mate as i was preparing for the first group discussion of the placement season. "Most of the times, its who and how long can one talk, is the decider for moving candidates to the next round" continued my room mate. I was wondering if that should be the indicator of the ability to argue.

Its been years since i have been through high decibel GDs. Its often that some conversations in business parlance get to the decibel testing, still the discourse in many meeting rooms have evolved. I wonder what is the need for highly intelligent groups to get into an argumentative conversation. Many a times, some of participants are so eager or impatient to make a point that they forget to listen to others.

What makes one to not listen others and keep pushing one's point of view? My belief is its about the fear, fear of having to make changes to one's thinking, fear of losing the argument, fear of the unknown. Generally, as we have been told no of times, in any discussion, if it has to reach a conclusion, one to has to keep making the point in a very persuasive manner so that everyone agrees to your point of view. My feeling is, if that has to be the outcome, then its pointless to have a discussion. The whole idea of a discussion it to be open to other's ideas and and in the process to be open to change one's own ideas. I do not see that humility in most of the conversations.

Take the case of powerpoints, in a way, its a predecided way of articulation of one's own thoughts. A presentation does not leave a room for other's input, its supposed to lead to an output that's logical conclusion of your own arguments. If it has to be that way, its best that its just shared and not discussed unless there are enough areas which are open for change.

Even a normal conversation should be more about listening to others and evolving a group view than one's own view. In the process, agreements should drive the conversation than arguments.  

Education : Why and how much

A former colleague of mine is wanting to get back to school after 9 years of work, while I was applauding him for the willingness to go back to a school after so many years of working, set me thinking, why and how much should one study.

As we grow up, many things we do are driven largely by the surrounding and we as a person have no say in most of it till we get to the age of 15 plus. So, the lower KG, upper KG, primary and secondary happens, partly to keep us occupied so that our parents can do what they want to and partly to understand the world around us. In the process, we get labelled as intelligent, hard working, disciplined depending on how much we listen to our teachers/parents. This is the period to explore, if group activities and reality shows (sports) attract us, if science or literature holds us in terms of curiosity, if we develop some idols which tell us what kind of life we will like to lead. Hence, this is that time of life when we should be trying to match our liking to whats available.

Most of us miss this point of understanding what we like, we end up scoring in all the subjects by over stretching and proving that there is nothing that we do not like :( .This confuses our parents further and they insist that we should continue exploring (learning more) further. We move to the next stage and make a decision only when we are forced to - science, arts or commerce, there is nothing that says that they all converge at some stage as our life is not so compartmentalised, yet we make a straight jacketed decision looking at future possibilities of a job and hence a stable career/girl(boy)friend/spouse/life/children etc etc. But what about your liking?

How should one make a choice about what to be educated about. I clearly think, there are two phases - exploration and sharpening. In the early stage, its about finding our true calling, the things that interest us, the things that will make us work on something. Hence, it can be truly broad based. The next stage is about sharpening what we want to do. The education at this stage should be specific, education that will sharpen the skills to do a particular thing in a better way.

Which of these stages is apt upto what stage is unto each of us. At a stage in my life, i was looking to get back to a campus to do an executive MBA, would that have made a difference? If i look back, good that i did not get into it as i was not sure if it was an exploration stage or a sharpening stage. And learning is not always about getting into a campus, it can be just joining a small shop to understand day to day cash management or one can work in a restaurant to understand how an eatery works...

Did i manage to confuse the ex colleague of mine? sure I did.

Cognitive association

While driving back from the office, i tuned into an fm station which was playing a Kishore Kumar song of 70s, a song i used to know but had not heard for the last god knows how many years. As the song was playing, i started singing and to my astonishment, i was able recollect every word and sing alongwith. I started thinking, how is it that i can remember a song so old and never heard for so long but it takes a lot of work to remember Pythagorus theorem. I remember my teacher telling me once, rhythmic patterns are easy for our brain to remember.

What it is that our brain can remember quite a lot things and can store it for so long? I read an article a while back which states, our brain stores data in cells as layers and its tagged in a certain way so that it can be retrieved with a certain stimulus, which in the case of this song will be the tune. I feel its fascinating and easy to compare how data is stored in computers. I am sure even programmers would have used this analogy.

To take it further, if it is true that our brain is a kind of hardware or a data storage then our ability to create associations will be RAM in computer parlance. Can we determine the size of our storage? we start terming people as 500 GB or 1 TB storage... then what about RAM? similarly we start using terms like person with 1GB RAM. So, our bio will read as - engineer, MBA with 500 GB storage and 1.5 GHZ RAM. The unfortunate part is, our hardware can not be upgraded :-(

Coming to cognitive associations, a lot that we make a meaning of is driven by cognitive associations. I feel, our ability to understand and appreciate is limited by expansion of the universe as understood by us. For example, if my brain is not exposed to classical music at all, its very difficult for me to appreciate how good or bad a piece of music is. For us to be able to absorb all that is good and bad, the starting point is about being open to it.

Typically, post the age of 40, you get affected by presbyopia - inability to decipher when objects are kept close to eyes. My feeling is, its as much to do with cornea as with your brain. There is something that is happening in your brain that is not deciphering the signal sent by your eyes, sure, the signal itself is weak but the brain is not able amplify that signal to make meaning out of it. Its here that the RAM comes into effect. Infact, if you do an experiment, keep things that are known at a short distance and see how you can identify them and then keep something that is totally unknown, see how you struggle. This is a clear case of cognitive associations.

We are driven so much by cognitive associations, our comforts draw a lot from cognitive association, so more your experience and create an association, easier for you to get comfortable. Is there a catch there, not sure, its to do with the stages of life, if you have experienced a lot in formative years, easier for you to deal with the world around you in the later part of the life.